Lone Wolf Beauty: The Power of Standing Strong as One

We are inherently social creatures, built on reciprocity, connection, and threads of love that weave us so finely together. By the same token, we find a unique beauty and strength through solitude. Our time spent alone is where we discover the underlying fibres of our inner power and grace; it is where we can reconnect to our own warmth and light.

Alone time is not to be confused with being lonely -- we could actually be in a room full of people and still feel the misty shades of loneliness. Loneliness is a feeling born from a sense of lack within; solitude is a choice that has its own gifts to share. There is a freedom that arises from periods of isolation; the freedom to be perfectly you.

Lone Wolf Beauty: The Power of Standing Strong as One

Loneliness is the poverty of self; solitude is the richness of self

- May Sarton

By seeking love outside of ourselves, we lose sight of the love we have within; we are calibrated to find the missing piece -- or our other half -- yet we are already whole. Through seeking acceptance from others, we diminish our own sense of purpose. And through searching for our dreams to be realized by the touch of another’s hand, we forget that we are innately the creators of all we desire to nurture.

We fear being alone and standing as one, yet it can forge an entirely new pattern to our life. How can we ever know the true wonder that lies within the cells, hidden chambers, and fabric of our own soul if we are too afraid to be alone with it? Alone time is when we take charge of opening our own parachute. It is when we learn that we can fly solo when we need to. When we bravely tap into our own resolve, we find there is less to fear within ourselves and others.  

Lone wolf beauty

Detachment is not that you should own nothing, but that nothing should own you.

– Ali Ibn Abi Talib

Wolves know their strengths both inside and outside of the pack. They endure and heal their own wounds, trust their own judgement, and grow stronger when left to their own devices. They don’t seek external permission to survive, exist, or to independently walk their desired path.

The beauty of a ‘lone wolf’ mentality is found in the ability to be able to detach when needed and be a greater version of yourself for it. It is realizing that your own measure, value, and drive for fulfilment relies solely on you; and that this is where all your inner power flourishes. We may be prompted or drawn into times of seclusion when we feel badly let down, lost, betrayed, or disenchanted with what surrounds us. Rather than deny, fear, or fight against being alone, we can look for the gems and riches within it. We can stop hiding and discover the priceless value of ourselves.

Standing strong alone

The wolves knew when it was time to stop looking for what they'd lost, to focus instead on what was yet to come.

- Jodi Picoult, Lone Wolf

When we can stand strong on our own, then we naturally stand stronger and more beautifully with others. In appreciation of our own charming spirit we can cherish another; in strengthening our own inner radiance, we become a beacon that encourages others to blaze theirs; and in finding our own truth, we come to treasure honesty and authenticity all around us.

We may never know the full veracity of what we hold within; our downfall is that we frequently underestimate everything that makes us so special and innately flawless. Our strength lies in realizing that we cannot find our gifts in others -- we can only seek them out ourselves.

Through our challenges, heartbreaks, and adversities we get the opportunity to journey into our own inner settings and discover another part of our magic and mystery. Through our own sincerity, wholeheartedness and inner confidence we become unparalleled and rooted to our unique pathway. We ignite and fuel our self-belief and stand tall at the door of our hopes, dreams and ambitions.

Releasing expectations

No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.

- Buddha

Expectations weigh heavily upon the framework of all we are; they sit so high on a pedestal that always seems too distant to reach. It is a pedestal that only exists in the eyes of the person that built it, so it will always be unattainable. In venturing to please and pacify our family, friends, or partners and their expectations, we succumb to an inherent loss and detract from our own centre of being. We can lose ourselves in the shapes and silhouettes of other people when we lack the integrity and conviction to trust the beauty of whom we are, seperate from all expectations and assumptions.

We reach stages of evolution and progression that people around us may not always understand. They only see the person they know or grew up with, not the person you may be transitioning into. Trusting our own path may mean lovingly moving away or stepping back from an environment or its expectations, if they do not support or encourage our growth.

This requires great strength. We can decide to release other people’s misconstruals of our essence and break free from the suffocation of their opinions. We can choose to take ownership and faithfully trust in our journey with a new-found wisdom, grace and richness in our autonomous power.

Cherishing the power of one

I am self-propelled; fuelled from within. I appreciate people’s opinions, but I’m not attached to them. I learned a long time ago that if I give them the power to feed me, I also give them the power to starve me.

- Steve Maraboli

Our intricate tapestries of calibre and courage are enhanced when we immerse ourselves in our own space and find glory in the ascension of our own heroic signature. We can elevate ourselves to a self-sufficient love, truth, and emotional freedom, and to all it takes to create our own happiness. Happiness is fragile; it is only what we master from within that has the capacity to last.